"ugh have these models been photoshopped, they look unnatural, unhealthy and gross"
“some people actually look like this so stop bashing the models”
“I’m not bashing the models, just the overuse of Photoshop”

Honestly, to me, all forms of Tumblr activism is basically just like

Group 1: *excludes certain people from a club*
Group 2: FUCK YOU GUYS, WE’LL MAKE OUR OWN CLUB
Group 2: YASSSS WE SLAAAAY
Group 2: You guys are *insert every bad adjective*
Group 2: You can’t be in our club lol
Group 2: Ugh, how are we still not accepted in their club!!!

marygreenman:

marygreenman:

marygreenman:

stahp-thinprivilege:

but when a guy says “not all men,” they’re not really saying “lol i’m so great you should fall at my feet because i’m not like those other men”

pretty sure they’re just saying, “oh hey, not all men are like this stop trying to…

Think about it this way. 

Have you ever been encountered by a group of bullies? Don’t you associate certain traits with those bullies and make a point to avoid people who hold these traits?  

Nobody is saying all men are rapist. At least nobody who truly understands what it means to be a feminist. That’s not what the message is. The message is that men are dangerous. If you want to be technical about it, the exact message is that men can be dangerous, far more easily then say, a woman.

Part of that is the power men are given over nearly everyone else. That’s the issue. It’s the power structure that makes the danger men present so much more prominent. It’s the power structure that allows them to be more damaging in their attitudes of entitlement and ownership. When you debunk any outcry to that with “NOT ALL MEN” you are silencing others who are bucking against the power structure. Who are trying to gain, at least the right -  the POWER - to say no and have it be heard and respected.

I mentioned a while ago on this blog that every bully I’ve ever had in my formative years was either a black or Hispanic girl. Please tell me that I would’ve been justified in avoiding all black and Hispanic girls thereafter. Think about it and then think what it means to generalize a group of people and then think about how shitty and unfair it is to that group, just like how shitty it would’ve been if I chose to deem all black/Hispanic girls bullies.

I can acknowledge that men are more dangerous to women than women are to men. Some men do fucked up shit and men in general do have privileges over women. You can discuss male privilege all you want without shitting all over men. But if you do choose to decide to shit all over men, don’t justify it with “it’s not about your feelings!” My original post was about this; men aren’t feeling entitled to women through “not all men.” “Not all men” is a phrase usually said after someone tries to put all men in this box of shitty traits that reasonable, good men do not want to be in. This is the reaction of anyone who’s been stereotyped.

(via thissoulisminetodrive)

marygreenman:

marygreenman:

stahp-thinprivilege:

but when a guy says “not all men,” they’re not really saying “lol i’m so great you should fall at my feet because i’m not like those other men”

pretty sure they’re just saying, “oh hey, not all men are like this stop trying to perpetuate a stereotype…

You have to remember that we live in an age where violence against women is not only defended,  but justified. Women are taught that being polite means not saying no, and that if they DO say no, men are justified in their unwanted aggressive advances. Men are not taught that rape is wrong. Women are taught to avoid the things that “cause” rape. Men are not taught to take responsibility for their actions, while women are taught to walk on the other side of the road incase that man coming towards you is an attacker. Men are only now being taught that no means no. Women are being taught that the size of the skirt they’re wearing defends any attacks that are hurled towards her, be it rape or insults from other women. 

When a man approaches us, we have to be careful. We have to work out ways to avoid angering men. Because if they decide to attack us? It will always somehow be our fault. 

Look, you’re allowed to feel uncomfortable around men, no one is saying otherwise. Men aren’t saying, “I’m so great, you should hang out with me, even though you don’t want to!” If you feel like you’re protecting yourself by avoiding men, that’s your prerogative. The problem I’m speaking to is feminists who disparage all men, on account of a few bad apples. That’s where “not all men” comes in. Yelling “all men are rapists” is hardly a means of protection and it’s not okay. Obviously, of all the issues at hand, it’s not the biggest issue, but it’s not progressive at all, does nothing for the cause, and is just generally a shitty thing to do.

I don’t expect any person from a group being poorly stereotyped to just nod along and I certainly don’t advocate justifying it.

(via thissoulisminetodrive)

Some humans are shitty, therefore, avoid all humans for your safety.

*insert bowl of M&M’s analogy here*

That bowl of M&M’s analogy in regards to “Not All Men” can go die now.

shinygays:

stahp-thinprivilege:

but when a guy says “not all men,” they’re not really saying “lol i’m so great you should fall at my feet because i’m not like those other men”

pretty sure they’re just saying, “oh hey, not all men are like this stop trying to perpetuate a stereotype that we are.”

Imagine a bowl of M&M’s that contains one poisoned M&M. You don’t know which of the M&M’s is poisoned. Imagine if you were told to scoop up a few of those M&M’s and eat them. Wouldn’t it make you nervous, not knowing which one was poisoned?

That’s basically how women have to live their lives because of systematic oppression. Once again, people think feminism is some rampant attack on men when it’s not even about men. You could be the nicest guy in the world but a woman wouldn’t know that unless she knew you personally.

"Yes All Women" is not an attack on men, it is just a point that proves why feminism is needed. "Not All Men" is an excuse for men who don’t want to take responsibility and realize that we have to teach other men to not treat women and minorities like garbage.

"Not All Men" makes a man’s feeling the priority in a situation regarding a marginalized woman. No one is saying "all men are evil beings and should be euthanized". What feminism asks is for men to acknowledge their advantages but its evident some men just don’t have strong enough egos to accept them.

I say this to you as a GUY (Now available on iTunes). So please don’t act like these “stereotypes” against men are any worse than the stereotypes thrown at women.

Like, how many times does it have to be said that feminism is not about hating men?

No singular demographic of people is perfect. There are “poisoned” M&M’s in various bowls, but we still eat from them, right? We don’t cry out “ALL THOSE WOMEN/BLACKS/ASIANS/BISEXUALS SUCK” because of a few bad M&M’s. do we? Basically, this analogy sucks because it could apply to any group, but we’re only using it to talk about men because we feel like it. There are stereotypes with so many groups of people, that we can’t just write off with, “Well, some of them are that, so it’s probably safest to assume all of them are like that!” Really, think about how shitty that sounds if you did that to any other group.

Women are marginalized, but we don’t have to shit on men to discuss how women are marginalized. It does no good to say, “Feminism isn’t about hating on men” right after a spiel about how much men suck and/or are all rapists.

Basically, no group should have to stand to be stereotyped. “Not all women are bad drivers,” that’s just an excuse for women to not take responsibility and teach other other women to be better drivers, huh?

marygreenman:

stahp-thinprivilege:

but when a guy says “not all men,” they’re not really saying “lol i’m so great you should fall at my feet because i’m not like those other men”

pretty sure they’re just saying, “oh hey, not all men are like this stop trying to perpetuate a stereotype that we are.”

Okay but when you say not all men, you’re asking is to put ourselves in possible danger in order to please that one man.

In what way would you be in danger by acknowledging that “not all men” are this or that? No one is asking you to date them or even interact with them, but there is no need to go around decrying all men as rapists or whatever derogatory statements have been made towards them.

(via thissoulisminetodrive)

Asked by muchos-sass muchos-sass

What child wants broccoli for dinner?

A child who has internalized fatphobia enough to ask for broccoli

SJW as Parents

Child: What did I do wrong?
SJW: I’m not going to educate you on what you did wrong. Google exists, mmkay?
Child: I don’t think I did anything wrong. All I did was ask for broccoli with dinner tonight. I want to be healthier.
SJW: You healthist shit! Your actions do not exist in a vacuum. Maybe you should have thought about how I feel about that! Have a fucking seat and eat your cheeseburger.

NIGHTNIGHT by DEDDY